I have already begun to do research on Miller’s life, and I am planning to read both his autobiography Timebends and a biography of his second wife called, appropriately Marilyn Monroe, written by Barbara Leaming (who is a well-known biographer). The lives of his first wife, Mary, and his second wife, Ingeborg, will obviously be more difficult to research since they are not famous. In case you were curious (and because I just found out how to do this) here are the Amazon links to those two books: and .
I also found an interesting article called “Signs of a Divorce Ahead?” by Rome Neal on the CBS news website. The article mentioned research done by psychotherapist Bonnie Maslin, who identified five types of marriage, all with different risk factors. Pursuer-Distancer Marriages are at the highest risk for failure (divorce) and were described as marriages in which “typically the wife raises problems; the husband dismisses them and/or refuses to talk about them”. This seemed significant to me for two reasons: first of all, there was something that bothered me about the gender generalization in this definition. The fact that the woman is almost always the one to raise problems in high risk marriages, and the man is the one to ignore, makes me question the underlying reasons for this. Is it because men are often taught to be more emotionally distant from a young age? Is it because women are as nagging and needy as they are stereotypically made out to be? Or is it when two specific types of people get together that the woman becomes insecure, and begins to get overly whiny, for lack of a better word? Or is it that for a marriage to truly work, the man must be more in love with the woman than she is with him, rather than the other way around? For some reason, I’m inclined to believe the last, but these questions are worth researching. I’m also wondering if there are typical behaviors seen in a marriage based on gender, or if these behaviors are independent of gender and are due to personality types. I will get back to these questions in a later post, I’m sure. Now, the second reason this seemed significant is because in After the Fall, a significant scene is Quentin’s memory of the first time his first wife, Louisa, stood up to him. She had always been shy and accepting, and one day, she decided to fight back and demand more. Their marriage dissolved soon after. In the scene, she tells Quentin she is dissatisfied, that he does not pay enough attention to her and he does not seem to see her as a person, or to notice her at all. Quentin’s reaction is one of stupefaction, denial, and dismissal, exactly the word the article uses to define marriages at the highest risk. It seems that even in his plays, Miller portrays marriages that fit the psychological outline for divorce, and if Louisa really represents Mary Slattery, Miller’s first wife, then this article gives insight as to the psychology behind their divorce. Another interesting fact pointed out by the article is that marrying younger than 25 makes divorce risks skyrocket, and Miller happened to marry Slattery straight out of college at the age of 24. Quentin also married Louisa young.
Another marriage type that related to both Miller and After the Fall was Operatic Marriage, which is defined as being “characterized by a tumultuous and volatile relationship, marked by cycles of fighting and making up”. This is a high risk marriage, and it seems to fit perfectly with Miller and Monroe’s marriage, as well as Quentin and Maggie’s. Both men married attractive, charming women that they felt the need to fix. In the article “Marilyn Monroe and Arthur Miller: Extract from Christopher Bigsby’s biography” in The Telegraph, Bisgsby stated that during her marriage to Miller, Monroe had a miscarriage, attempted suicide, and increased her drug use. Bigsby wrote that “there was a profundity to her despair that he seemed unable to penetrate, and she taunted him with his failure to rescue her”, but she also seemed desperate for his approval, both hallmarks of a rocky Operatic Marriage.
Finally, the lowest risk Traditional Marriage was defined as a marriage in which “couples share a traditional interpretation of gender roles”. I want to look into this more, because I was not sure whether this means marriages in which the woman is a housewife and the man works, or what. If it is, I see no reason why these should be the most successful marriages, and I actually find the idea that they would be a bit offensive and behind the times. From the limited research I have done thus far on Miller’s final marriage, I do not think that it was a Traditional Marriage but rather a Cohesive Individuated Marriage, which includes “shared responsibilities, autonomy, and a view of marriage as a refuge”. Until I read Miller’s autobiography (which should be coming in from Amazon any day now) I won’t know his mental state during his final marriage, or whether he saw it as a refuge, but I do know Ingeborg was an intelligent, well-educated woman with an important career as a photographer. She was far more independent than his first two wives, and if she is at all like Holga from After the Fall, she was also opinionated, headstrong, and understanding. All these seem to fit into the characteristics of a Cohesive Individuated Marriage, which is low risk (but not lowest risk, although I like its description more than that of a Traditional Marriage). An important thing to note it that Miller seemed to move up in each subsequent marriage, in that each woman he chose fit better with his personality than the one before. However, this does not usually happen, as all the research I have seen so far indicates that with each new marriage, divorce risks go up, and they are already high enough in a first marriage: 50% in America.
Hopefully, my research will continue to be this insightful and interesting, because every new thing I find only seems to open up more questions. Right now, everything fits well together, but one of my biggest worries is that by the end of this project, I will have too much information I want to include and no idea how to organize it. Oh well, I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it. Happy Monday!